Thursday, March 11, 2010

When It's All "Up In The Air"




In the Oscar awards in my head, Vera Farmiga won for Best Actress, Anna Kendrick for Best Supporting Actress, and Best Movie -- Up In The Air. For me, it wasn't so much a movie about the commitment-phobic guy. It was about the women, in that guy's life.


It's been a long time since a movie has had moments that ring so true, that life comes to a screeching halt, and I'm left in a haze of discomforting thoughts. I'm no Ryan Bingham. I guess I'm one of the girls in his life.

N: "You've set up a way of life, that basically makes it impossible for you to make any human connections. Now, somehow, this woman runs the gauntlet of your ridiculous "life choice" and comes out the other end with a smile -- just so you can call her CASUAL?"

Hahahaha. Right through the heart.


Wednesday, March 11, 2009

Doc Alex: March 10, 2009

"A true act of love, unlike imaginary love, is hard and forbidding. Imaginary love yearns for an immediate heroic act that is achieved quickly and seen by everyone

A true act of love, on the other hand, requires hard work and patience, and, for some, it is a whole way of life"


--
The Brothers Karamazov



"This is a job for
superman" + "This is the happiest Christmas of my life" + IMAR-flex + Bardak + Sintak + Doc Aga + Toy Cars + Noh, Tanya Noh! + "Alam nyo, mga bata pa kayo" + "Grade two palang ako, sinasabi na sakin ng teacher ko na gwapo ako"

Happy Birthday Dad :-)


Wednesday, March 4, 2009

The Importance of Being Ernest

My boy is a bundle of contradictions. He's the kid brimming with outbursts, jumping to his feet whenever a thought or idea tickles his fancy. But he's also the kid sitting alone in the corner listening to his iPod, lost in a haze of music. He'll seem disinterested in the topics discussed in Literature class, but later on he'll surprise me with his in-depth knowledge of Dante's Inferno, which he said he read on a whim during a particularly boring plane ride. He is equal parts sweet and sulky, animated and aloof, wary and trusting.

He struggled through most of the year. He lost most of these struggles – getting banned from prom for alleged inebriation, missing the RTV, the biggest school event of 2008, and committing this offense and that, which led to an end of school year suspension that made him ineligible to march. There is a sense of guilt at not having been able to do more for Ernest, and not being able to fight for him tooth and nail, a some other homeroom teachers would (Thea Sordan).


If there was any student in my homeroom class that has a lot to be pissed about, it would be him. Yet on the last day of classes, he stood up, asked permission to read a speech – a speech he had typed the night before. This was new to me, for he did not even make the same kind of effort for actual graded speeches in class.

Most of it might be lip service, especially the hyperbolic compliments, but there is a sentence or two that radiates truth.

Delivered with shaking hands and a voice that wavered from time to time, here is Ernest's speech, verbatim.


"First of all, I don't know why I decided to make this. I guess it's just tradition for me to make a farewell speech before every school year ends, for me to reminisce, realize, and to just say what I want in front of my class. To be frank, I'm really glad that I'm leaving Reedley, the only sad part about leaving Reedley is breaking out of this cycle, seeing the same faces, hearing the same voices, sitting in the same chairs, and studying in the same classroom.

I'm just sad right now because I am also leaving some of my friends like Boga and Enzo. I really regret leaving Xavier, it was where I grew up, where all my friends are. I only had a few friends before I got into Reedley, Rafa, JM, Matas and Enzo. It was hard for me to adjust to this new environment, I felt lost alone and mad at the world most of the time. Then days grew longer and I met and gained new friends, some came back home from the States, and I met one of my best friends. These friends meade my stay here in Reedley easier for me, especially Ms. Lady May Martinez, the prettiest, kindest and just simply the best class adviser in the world.

Days grew into weeks, weeks grew into months. Time just flew in a blink of an eye here in Reedley, everything just happened so fast. Instead of learning academics here, I mostly learned life-lessons, lessons you wouldn't be able to learn in any other school. I realized a lot of things about myself and my friends.



Yes, I regret leaving Xavier, but I can't do anything about it anymore. God has a plan for all of us and His plans for me is to study in this school, and now I realize going here wasn't so bad after all. I was able to meet new people, learn a new language and most of all, build everlasting friendships. I just want to say thank you to you Oxford, you made my senior year a good one. I'm glad this year is finally over and done.

Now we can all go back home bringing with us stories and memories of things you once did. To our classmates Sean Oh and Eric, To the Notorious Boys of Oxford! To our broken walls! To our lovely adviser Ms. Martinez! And most of all to Oxford! Thanks guys! That sure was one crazy roller coaster ride which I will gladly ride again. I'd like to end my speech with a quote my mentor told us last year before he left for the States. “Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened!” Smile guys"




Sunday, January 11, 2009

Some Things Last



Like many of the best stories, this movie is about the redeeming and transforming power of love. From the moment of his birth, Benjamin Button, despite his unusual condition (aging backwards, and therefore being born looking a horrible, decaying old man) was surrounded by an unconditional and accepting sort of love.

From his adoptive mother Queenie, his childhood playmate Daisy (who would become the love of his life), his piano mentor -- a woman in the elderly home, his first employer, the tugboat captain, and many, many others.

It's also a meditation on how it is to live on borrowed time. One has to love completely and live fully. And, one also has to learn how to wait. Because, the movie says, life has a way of putting everything in its place at the best possible time. "We finally meet in the middle," Daisy says.

And finally, this movie tells us -- despite the ephemeral of nature of life, there are some things that
do last.

Like the real kind of love. Love that compels people to teach you how to play music, or share with you a Shakespearean quote, or engage you in an intimate conversation in the middle of the night. The kind of love that sees you, with your wrinkly skin, thinning gray hair, and arthritis -- in other words, whatever imperfections and flaws you might have -- and still manage to look at you, like you are the most beautiful person in the world.




Tuesday, November 25, 2008

A Quote From Meet Joe Black

Mia and I live for movie quotes. Especially her -- she'll quote everyone from Bridget Jones, to Maggie Cheung, to Maricel Soriano.

Here's one she shared earlier with me, from Meet Joe Black. I didn't really like the movie, but this quote is rather nice. If a little bit on the hopeless romantic side.

"
Love is passion, obsession, someone you can't live without. If you don't start with that, what are you going to end up with? Fall head over heels. I say find someone you can love like crazy and who'll love you the same way back. And how do you find him? Forget your head and listen to your heart. I'm not hearing any heart. Run the risk, if you get hurt, you'll come back. Because, the truth is there is no sense living your life without this. To make the journey and not fall deeply in love - well, you haven't lived a life at all. You have to try. Because if you haven't tried, you haven't lived."


-- William Parrish (Anthony Hopkins)



Saturday, November 1, 2008

BLESSED AMONG MEN


It's been a while since I've found myself with some free time to post in this blog. Writing can be so taxing, that I decided I'll just post my favorite photos, with a few choice words, just so this thing can have the semblance of being updated.

IT'S BEEN A WHOLE MONTH OF FRIENDS - THE OLD, NEW, THE UNEXPECTED!

1) BEST FRIEND # 1
Mia and I have been hanging around a lot with each other lately. It's funn
y, but we were never this close, even back in college when we'd get to see each other everday. You know how some people toss the word best friend around, and use it for every other friend they have? I use it only when referring to Mia :-)



2) FACULTY FRIENDS!
Rizal Faculty -- keeping each other sane, through moments when being proactive seems like the hardest thing on the planet.


3) REVENGE OF THE NERDS
When knowledge of pop culture make you seem cool, as opposed to weird.

4) THE INSPIRATION
Erika - whose life always makes me wish I could do more with my own.

"
I had a blast as well. The city seemed to welcome you with an enchanted brand of magic that you needed at that time. It slapped you silly (shocked me slightly), and lulled you sweetly (surprised even me). I salute you today for your strength and self-possession. Love you!"
-E.


5) THE GIRLFRIEND
I never thought Sheryl and I would get to know each other the way we have. Thank you! It's been a blast :-) I will always remember the gayness and the beach trips and the endless Kim jokes and Aaron impersonations.




6) THE TIMELESS FRIENDS
How do you even start to thank friends whom you've known for more than a decade? My village friends who are the most honest, brutal, and of course, the most loyal and funniest as well.


Tuesday, October 14, 2008

I Do Not Love You

You can say what you want -- Neruda's overrated, he's pop poetry etc. etc. But try listening to this particular poem in your Ipod with Andy Garcia reciting it, and I'll bet -- you'll be quoting it too.




I Do Not Love You

by Pablo Neruda


I do not love you as if you were salt-rose, or topaz,
or the arrow of carnations the fire shoots off.
I love you as certain dark things are to be loved,
in secret, between the shadow and the soul.

I love you as the plant that never blooms
but carries in itself the light of hidden flowers;
thanks to your love a certain solid fragrance,
risen from the earth, lives darkly in my body.

I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where.
I love you straightforwardly, without complexities or pride;
so I love you because I know no other way

that this: where I does not exist, nor you,
so close that your hand on my chest is my hand,
so close that your eyes close as I fall asleep.

your voice over the wires came leaping

A Poem by e.e. cummings

your little voice
Over the wires came leaping
and i felt suddenly
dizzy
With the jostling and shouting of merry flowers
wee skipping high-heeled flames
courtesied before my eyes
or twinkling over to my side
Looked up
with impertinently exquisite faces
floating hands were laid upon me
I was whirled and tossed into delicious dancing
up
Up
with the pale important
stars and the Humorous
moon
dear girl
How i was crazy how i cried when i heard
over time
and tide and death
leaping
Sweetly
your voice

Sunday, October 12, 2008

Swimming Closer To You

The best thing about traveling is that it gives you perspective. When you're on a little speedboat, with miles and miles of sea embracing you on all sides, and gigantic limestone cliffs loom up ahead, and the sky is flung wide open above you, well, it's a splendid reminder that not everything is about you. You are not the center of the universe. There is something bigger and infinitely more to your life than your problems.

And just like that, all the cares that have hovered in your head just magically melt away.

I was lucky enough to be yanked out of my sadness just a couple of years back. You know how, in the movies, when the main character is depressed or in turmoil, they just throw everything away for a trip far, far away?

I was blessed enough to be whisked away to Palawan, at the very time when I needed it most. And with my best friend, no less.

At first, I remember whining and complaining to Mia about the stupidest things, focusing yet again on myself, even though I was surrounded by such stunning scenery. I remember being so hung up with thoughts of the "dirty, numb angel boy," that all I wanted to do was sleep in the cottage, even as the day beckoned in all its glory.


But then I remember, the exact, precise moment, when everything just became OK. It started with the the short visit to the old Fort that fronted the sea. We were in the group that included Tourism Secretary Ace Durano, and this Japanese businessman who was interested in investing money to upgrade the Palawan airport.

Mia and I were laughing our heads off imagining that we'd try to impress the Jap dude with the little Nippongo we had learned in college.

"
Shinbun desu ne?" (That's a newspaper, isn't it?)

or

"Neko desu wa?" (Is that a cat?)

"Iiye, enpitsu desu." (No, it's a pencil.)

Anyway, we finally boarded a double-deck boat back to the resort. We were sitting at the top seats, cocktails were being served, people were making small talk.

Mia and I we were in one corner, analyzing our troubled situations for the 657th time -- trying to make sense of why our lives were such a mess.

And then the sun began to set --
a blaze of orange, and red and all these brilliant crimson colors. The wind whipped our hair. The sea stretched for miles on end. We took a sip of the ice cold beer in our hands. And it was Just. So. Beautiful.

Like beautiful that it will take your breath away. So beautiful that you want to cry because you had no idea that anything could be that perfect.

And just like that. All our cares evaporated.

"Ok na 'to. Wala naman palang problema eh."

Hahaha.

That being said, Lord, I think I need to go away again.

Thank God sembreak is a couple of weeks away.


Time to hit the beach.

Wednesday, October 1, 2008

Dear Loser Ariane and Epal Allan

Was about to go to bed, but for some reason I thought I'd go online for a little bit. There were the usual updates from Multiply friends -- the Atenean ones posting about the Blue Eagle Bonfire. It was funny, an overwhelming number of them decided to comment on the Putik Patch, formerly known as Bellarmine Field. Mia and I didn't even bother to stay around long enough to

There were some emails from work, which I promptly deleted (haha just kidding), there were some updates on the sites I frequented -- postsecret.com, Cecile Zamora's blog, and some other useless trifles that I enjoy so much.

Finally, there was a message from two friends which sent me typing this blog -- from Ariane, who told me she was officially leaving on Oct. 22, and from Sheryl, who told me that Allan was also leaving soon.

I've been friends with Ariane and Allan since I was 17, which makes our friendship just one year short of a decade. The proximity has helped fuel and sustain it -- anytime we wanted to get together for a spaghetti afternoon, an all-night dvd marathon, family dinner, spur of the moment "inuman", they were always just a phone call and a couple of blocks away.

But now, well. New York and Dubai will not accommodate our little get-togethers so well. And I realized, it is the small things that I will miss over the next couple of months. Random phone calls. Biking and barbecue days. Tree-planting (!), Last minute lending of clothes, money, food, time, energy, advice and sanity. As Tom Cruise said in Vanilla Sky, "The little things... there's nothing bigger, is there?"

Coincidentally, my cousin from New York sent me over some songs from Fab Moretti's new band "Little Joy." The nicest one is called "Brand New Start," a sweet little track that is now the soundtrack to this entry.

So there. This is a Brand New Start, for both you, and for me as well. And for everyone whose lives intertwined with yours (this means you Sheryl).

Even though I regularly call you losers, "epal" and other similar terms of endearment, let me say for the record, I will miss you.